Frodo Baggins: I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.
Often times when life seems a little overwhelming, I think of this quote from The Lord of the Rings (both movie and book). It helps me to keep perspective of the entire situation and to realize that we all face hard times in our lives.
My wife will arrive here on August 2nd. It will be 4 months and 1 day since I last saw her. Although it’s not nearly as long as some go through, it was longer than I would have liked. However, things do take the course they take for a reason, and I tried to keep the above quote in perspective.
One interesting thing about this time period is the heavy reliance my wife and I had on just talking. I realized that when we were together in Japan, there would be a lot of nights where we would just do stuff together, but not really communicate often. I thought we had a good relationship, and we did. But now I realize that I understand my wife more after these 4 months than I did when we were living together in Japan. Once life resumes a normal pace here, I’m really going to keep focusing on this. I discovered my wife is far sweeter, more sensitive, and more caring than I originally knew, and I want to keep learning more about her for endless years to come.
The other thing I learned was how wonderful our friends are. When I left Japan, my wife was just getting to know the people that would soon become incredible friends with her. These friends opened up their homes and hearts to her and did everything they could for her. To these incredible friends, I would say you are no longer friends, but more like family to us. We are looking forward to the day when we can meet again, and to a lifetime of great memories.
Often times we experience things in life that we would like to sweep aside and forget. Often times life will hand us the proverbial lemon to make lemonade with. I say instead of making lemonade with it, taste the lemon, learn the bitterness of it and realize that life takes these turns for a reason. Once the bitterness of the lemon subsides, there is a realization that the lemons are a small part of life that makes the whole more enjoyable. The bitterness of being apart from my wife has been more than repaid by the knowledge I have gained about her and the bonds that have been built with our wonderful friends.